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Something I often did to combat fear of failure was focus too much on the have-to's, musts, and shoulds. I was always chasing my to-do list. Which often led to disconnection. And then on to depression…
Read More"Thank you. You really frustrate me at times but ultimately help me". That's a text I got from client a little while ago after a session.
Now, a couple of years ago, that would've hurt on some level. I may have laughed it off. But it would've stung. I used to have an overwhelming need to be liked. And I know we all like to be liked. Who doesn't?
Read MoreA lot gets posted about anxiety these days. And it's great we're talking about it. But some of it just doesn't sit right with me.
We love to personify things… And if it helps create connection and understanding then I'm all for it.
But what about when it doesn't?
Read MoreIf you've felt depression's emptiness, this isn't for you. If you know what it's like to believe things never get better, despite past contradiction, this isn't for you.
This is for those of you who get frustrated when we can't tell you what's wrong. When we're inexplicably miserable, without cause that withstands logic or reason.
This is for those of you who…
Read MoreI started drinking again recently. After struggling to stay quit for years, I finally stopped for almost five. Then I started again last year.
Why? I don't believe abstinence is always the answer.
Read MoreI lost a friend five years ago this week. And I still think about him a lot.
Yet, memories that used to bring happiness and laughter - sometimes those same ones bring sadness now too. And maybe that seems obvious. But it wasn't always that way.
Read MoreI went dancing recently. I love dancing. Though I most definitely didn't always.
My mum always used to talk about dancing when I was younger. Saying it was one of her favourite things. How she could just get lost in it. Go somewhere else. She'd always be first throwing shapes on the dance-floor.
For a long time, this was something I never really understood. The idea of stepping onto a dance-floor - let alone an empty one - filled me with terror.
Read MoreSmartphone addiction is a real thing, recent research suggests. But have we really got the full picture?
Recently, I watched the video of Simon Sinek talking about 'Millennials in the Workplace'. And if you haven't seen it, I'd highly recommend you watch it.
He talks about the how and why Millenials got the deal they did. I found it insightful. A lot rings true. But not all.
Read MoreToday I presented a workshop about stress to a business I'm working with. It went well. I had fun. But it wasn't all easy.
Read MoreI've always spent time on my own.
Probably too much at times.
Some is needed.
But too much disconnection is rarely good.
We need to interact as human beings.
To feel connected and..significant, in a way. Like we matter to each other.
"I just LOVE IT when they do that!" you once said about that now-really-annoying thing your partner does. Probably around the honeymoon period.
So what changed?
Read MoreWe all love a personality test, don't we? "Tell me who I am!" your inner voice screams. The need to understand ourselves - and what it means - seems so ingrained.
Exciting new research shows how the already-known 'Big 5' personality traits are commonly expressed together. Based on the interplay of questionnaire answers, the study categorises people into four new personality types.
Read MoreDo you enjoy smoking? Or still trying to quit?
I smoked a lot in my late-teens. I told everyone I loved it. I believed it. But it wasn't true.
A few years on, it was normal for my friends to ask, "are you smoking at the moment?". It was a running joke. Because I'd quit cold-turkey for a few weeks, then quickly be back chain-smoking in the pub garden. Like a human yo-yo.
But why?
Read MoreDo you struggle with sleep? Too little or too much, maybe always feeling somewhat tired?
I used to chronically procrastinate sleep. Eventually I discovered a belief "going to bed early = less time to do stuff = not good enough". And I've found this kind of miscalculation quite common.
Read MoreDo you ever feel like what you're doing just isn't enough?
Exercise is good for you. Everyone knows. Turns out, you can over-do it though.
Read MoreHave you ever believed you couldn't do something even though others can?
I jumped out of a plane recently.
I knew I'd be strapped to an experienced instructor. That they'd have a parachute. I knew, consciously, I'd be safe. And that it'd likely be an amazing experience.
I was still fucking terrified.
Read MoreDo you ever just feel like you're not getting anywhere? Like you make plans, but then they just don't happen?
I've had two weeks of that.
Read MoreI love early mornings now.
Lucky, really. As I have little choice this weekend, sitting here on the train to LDN, enroute to the third module of my Master Practitoner training. (I'll be a certified NLP Ninja come November).
I'd love to tell you that last night was the sensible, textbook choice. Where I cut short what I was doing. Left early. Made space for a full recharge.
It wasn't though.
Things have been getting busier for me in the Cognitive Hypnotherapy and Coaching in sunny Leighton Buzzard. So it was the sensible decision to take the final leap. But it was one I both wanted and didn't want to make. Why was I so conflicted?
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David Bird
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