Here's where I post what I write. Some may be useful. Some even entertaining. And if we're lucky, it's both.
Rules are important. They can be helpful. Define boundaries. Create order. All the good stuff we complained about as children and eventually learned (somewhat) to appreciate once we got older.
But some rules can set us up to fail…
Read MoreI went to London recently to see some friends I haven't for a while. And this might seem trivial. But it was nearly a whole day spent on connection. And well away from anything I could consider 'productive'.
Now, it's not like I wouldn't have done that in the past. I would. And did. But I'd have found myself increasingly uncomfortable as the time-to-leave drew closer and closer.
But why?
Read MoreI never did well with compliments.
People would tell me how they enjoyed a gig after I'd played. And I'd always make self-deprecating jokes. And find a way to quickly move on.
It wasn't until I saw a friend play with his band I saw the impact it had…
Read MoreNobody likes to fail. Not really. But sometimes we need to.
I cracked my phone screen recently. A month old. First time ever. I'd always relied on a particular case. But with a change in design, I didn't spend any real time looking for something on par. "It'll be fine" I thought. And it wasn't.
But would my complacency have been shattered without such a blunder?
Read MoreStriving for good enough, I thought I had to be unfazed by everything life threw at me. Little did I realise that was the set-for-failure expectation of the perfectionist in me…
Read More"What does success look like?" we ask to help avoid failure. And the answer may be easy mid-task. "When this is finished!". But then what?
Read MorePlanning on heading out over the next week or so?
Something I often did to combat fear of failure was focus too much on the have-to's, musts, and shoulds. I was always chasing my to-do list. Which often led to disconnection. And then on to depression…
Read MoreDo you ever feel like what you're doing just isn't enough?
Exercise is good for you. Everyone knows. Turns out, you can over-do it though.
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