Nailed It: The Hidden Truth Behind The Pain That Prevents Change (And What To Do About It)

Nailed It: The Hidden Truth Behind The Pain That Prevents Change (And What To Do About It)

Why do we struggle to make the changes we know we need to?

I stayed in a lacklustre job for a number of years. Despite my lack of interest in the role. Despite mounting tension with my boss. I wasn't happy. I knew that. But I didn't leave.

And why?

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High Achieving: Why Chasing Achievement Can Fail To Bring You The Feel-Good Hit You Expect

High Achieving: Why Chasing Achievement Can Fail To Bring You The Feel-Good Hit You Expect

I went to London recently to see some friends I haven't for a while. And this might seem trivial. But it was nearly a whole day spent on connection. And well away from anything I could consider 'productive'.

Now, it's not like I wouldn't have done that in the past. I would. And did. But I'd have found myself increasingly uncomfortable as the time-to-leave drew closer and closer.

But why?

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Change Of View: How Past Positives Can Keep You Running Back Instead Of Moving Forwards

Change Of View: How Past Positives Can Keep You Running Back Instead Of Moving Forwards

We can become upset when a new estate goes up across the road. Destroying the view of the fields and cattle we had before.

We complain to family and friends. Co-workers. Post to online forums. We worry about the traffic. It's grown worse the last few years. It can only get even worse now…

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Failure To Invest: Why Our Most Painful Failures Can Be The Most Valuable

Failure To Invest: Why Our Most Painful Failures Can Be The Most Valuable

Nobody likes to fail. Not really. But sometimes we need to.

I cracked my phone screen recently. A month old. First time ever. I'd always relied on a particular case. But with a change in design, I didn't spend any real time looking for something on par. "It'll be fine" I thought. And it wasn't.

But would my complacency have been shattered without such a blunder?

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Part Of The Pack: How Simple Life Choices Can Leave You Out With The Wolves

Part Of The Pack: How Simple Life Choices Can Leave You Out With The Wolves

I was on a bike ride this weekend. A pub crawl, technically, (those were the checkpoints) except on wheels.

I've been doing it for 10 years. And what started as an off-cuff idea between friends, 15 years later, is now an organised community of cyclists. Riders come and go. People get busy. Move away. Gain commitments. But twice a year, the ride still goes ahead…

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Soap Box Stress: How Your Rules Create The Very Problems You're Trying To Avoid

Soap Box Stress: How Your Rules Create The Very Problems You're Trying To Avoid

Often find yourself on edge? Like a ready-to-boil-over pan, or Jenga pile nervously awaiting the next nudge?

I used to get stressed a lot. So much hacked me off. Slow drivers. Program crashes. Blown light-bulbs. Instruction manuals that didn't make sense just by staring at them blankly for four seconds…

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Elephant Spotting: When Being Honest Gets You Further Than Being Nice

Elephant Spotting: When Being Honest Gets You Further Than Being Nice

"Thank you. You really frustrate me at times but ultimately help me". That's a text I got from client a little while ago after a session.

Now, a couple of years ago, that would've hurt on some level. I may have laughed it off. But it would've stung. I used to have an overwhelming need to be liked. And I know we all like to be liked. Who doesn't?

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Depression: An Open Letter To Those Who Struggle To Support You Through Your Darkest Days

Depression: An Open Letter To Those Who Struggle To Support You Through Your Darkest Days

If you've felt depression's emptiness, this isn't for you. If you know what it's like to believe things never get better, despite past contradiction, this isn't for you.

This is for those of you who get frustrated when we can't tell you what's wrong. When we're inexplicably miserable, without cause that withstands logic or reason.

This is for those of you who…

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