Here's where I post what I write. Some may be useful. Some even entertaining. And if we're lucky, it's both.
"These are unprecedented times".
Something we keep hearing a lot. But with all the uncertainty, let's put our attention on what we can do to keep grounded…
Read More"I don't like this episode of Black Mirror"
One of the best-yet-worst memes I've seen to explain our current situation.
Social Distancing and Self-Isolation are now part of everyday lingo. Uncertainty seems one of the only certainties…
Read MoreI often get asked "how is what you do different to Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) or Counselling?" or more simply:
"So what is it you actually do?"
Read MoreIt's that time of year again. When we make ourselves promises to change. And then try desperately not to break them. But why is it so hard?
Read MoreLast Friday in the UK: some woke up rejoicing. Some woke up in horror. Yet, we all experienced the same election result. How can that be?
(It’s not what you think…)
Read MoreDo you get sick of people who keep pushing your buttons? Like they just don't respect your boundaries?
I had a coaching conversation recently…
Read MoreAt times we all put off things we dislike. Chores. Housework. Paying bills. But why procrastinate things we actually want to do?
Sometimes it's about identity theft…
Read MoreWhy do we struggle to make the changes we know we need to?
I stayed in a lacklustre job for a number of years. Despite my lack of interest in the role. Despite mounting tension with my boss. I wasn't happy. I knew that. But I didn't leave.
And why?
Read MoreI had some time off recently. Which was great. But as we know, going away means coming back. And coming back means catching up. Easy enough though. Because I'd already planned how I'd get back on track. Simples.
And then life happened…
Read MoreI spoke with a prospective client recently. Our second chat. It didn't last long though. And for probably my favourite reason.
She'd been doing really well…
Read MoreRules are important. They can be helpful. Define boundaries. Create order. All the good stuff we complained about as children and eventually learned (somewhat) to appreciate once we got older.
But some rules can set us up to fail…
Read MoreOur minds love to problem-solve. Creating pleasure from pain. So improving things feels good. But not when it's lose-lose…
Read MoreThe Prime Minister resigns. Cue huge split in opinion. But not about the fate of the country.
About compassion…
Read MoreI went to London recently to see some friends I haven't for a while. And this might seem trivial. But it was nearly a whole day spent on connection. And well away from anything I could consider 'productive'.
Now, it's not like I wouldn't have done that in the past. I would. And did. But I'd have found myself increasingly uncomfortable as the time-to-leave drew closer and closer.
But why?
Read MoreWe can become upset when a new estate goes up across the road. Destroying the view of the fields and cattle we had before.
We complain to family and friends. Co-workers. Post to online forums. We worry about the traffic. It's grown worse the last few years. It can only get even worse now…
Read MoreI never did well with compliments.
People would tell me how they enjoyed a gig after I'd played. And I'd always make self-deprecating jokes. And find a way to quickly move on.
It wasn't until I saw a friend play with his band I saw the impact it had…
Read MoreNobody likes to fail. Not really. But sometimes we need to.
I cracked my phone screen recently. A month old. First time ever. I'd always relied on a particular case. But with a change in design, I didn't spend any real time looking for something on par. "It'll be fine" I thought. And it wasn't.
But would my complacency have been shattered without such a blunder?
Read MoreI was on a bike ride this weekend. A pub crawl, technically, (those were the checkpoints) except on wheels.
I've been doing it for 10 years. And what started as an off-cuff idea between friends, 15 years later, is now an organised community of cyclists. Riders come and go. People get busy. Move away. Gain commitments. But twice a year, the ride still goes ahead…
Read MoreStriving for good enough, I thought I had to be unfazed by everything life threw at me. Little did I realise that was the set-for-failure expectation of the perfectionist in me…
Read More"What does success look like?" we ask to help avoid failure. And the answer may be easy mid-task. "When this is finished!". But then what?
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