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David Bird Coaching, Counselling & Cognitive Hypnotherapy in Leighton Buzzard

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David Bird Coaching, Counselling & Cognitive Hypnotherapy in Leighton Buzzard
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    • Who I Help & What With
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    • Video: The Myth of Mental Illness?
    • Video: How Confidence Works
    • Video: Addictive Personality?
    • Download: Stress-Buster audio
    • Radio Interview: Coping With Stress
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DB’s Coaching, Counselling & Cognitive Hypnotherapy Blog for Leighton Buzzard & Milton Keynes

Here's where I post what I write. Some may be useful. Some even entertaining. And if we're lucky, it's both.


May 10, 2019

Gift-Wrap Guilt: Why Compliments Can Be So Painful And How To Soothe The Sting

May 10, 2019/ David Bird
Gift-Wrap Guilt: Why Compliments Can Be So Painful And How To Soothe The Sting

I never did well with compliments.

People would tell me how they enjoyed a gig after I'd played. And I'd always make self-deprecating jokes. And find a way to quickly move on.

It wasn't until I saw a friend play with his band I saw the impact it had…

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July 19, 2026
Is Power Evil? A critique of Jeffrey Pfeffer's 7 Rules of Power
July 19, 2026
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July 19, 2026
Are Smartphones Screwing Up Our Kids? A critique of Jonathan Haidt's The Anxious Generation
May 10, 2026
Are Smartphones Screwing Up Our Kids? A critique of Jonathan Haidt's The Anxious Generation
May 10, 2026

Are Smartphones Screwing Up Our Kids?

American Social Psychologist Jonathan Haidt says, unequivocally, yes…

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May 10, 2026
Relationship Enshitification: How Fear and Entitlement Ruin Love
March 1, 2026
Relationship Enshitification: How Fear and Entitlement Ruin Love
March 1, 2026

Relationship Enshitification: How Fear and Entitlement Ruin Love

 

Ever wondered why your romantic relationships start well, but then begin to suck the life out of you?

Social media holds the answer - but not in the way you might think…

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March 1, 2026
Is Capitalism Destroying Mental Health? A critique of James Davies' 'Sedated'
February 21, 2026
Is Capitalism Destroying Mental Health? A critique of James Davies' 'Sedated'
February 21, 2026

In his book 'Sedated', researcher, lecturer, and psychotherapist James Davies points the finger squarely at our current economic structure as the cause of the Western Mental Health Crisis.

I explore these ideas in more depth in a 15-minute talk…

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February 21, 2026
The MYTH of Mental Illness: Was Thomas Szasz Right?
January 9, 2026
The MYTH of Mental Illness: Was Thomas Szasz Right?
January 9, 2026

Is mental illness real?

No - at least, not in the way we think.

Because according to psychiatrist Thomas Szasz, the problem lies in the question…

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January 9, 2026
The Ideal Worker Fantasy: Failing at Work? Or is Work Failing You?
January 3, 2026
The Ideal Worker Fantasy: Failing at Work? Or is Work Failing You?
January 3, 2026

Ever feel like no matter how many hoops you jump through, it's never enough?

It may not be you…

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January 3, 2026
Lying About Santa: Innocent family magic? Or an illusion of deceit and betrayal?
December 26, 2025
Lying About Santa: Innocent family magic? Or an illusion of deceit and betrayal?
December 26, 2025

A conversation I've had numerous times with various people is, "don’t you think telling kids Santa exists is lying to them?". And it can quickly turn to justification. "It's not lying", they say. And then begin to explain how it's something different…

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December 26, 2025
Capacity Arrogance: When Getting Ahead Actually Means Backing Down
December 18, 2025
Capacity Arrogance: When Getting Ahead Actually Means Backing Down
December 18, 2025

Facing challenges makes you grow. But when is real growth backing out?

I had a social work client once upon a time. I turned up and he was angry. "They're screwing me over" he kept saying…

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December 18, 2025
Why Do We Get Anxious? 10 Root Causes of Anxiety Explained
August 24, 2025
Why Do We Get Anxious? 10 Root Causes of Anxiety Explained
August 24, 2025

Ever find yourself asking 'why am I anxious?'.

Anxiety might feel random and unexplainable at times - but it isn’t. It's your nervous system firing off to protect you.

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August 24, 2025
How Does Anxiety Show Up? (Anxiety Symptoms)
August 5, 2025
How Does Anxiety Show Up? (Anxiety Symptoms)
August 5, 2025

Anxiety is more than just 'worry'. It can affect every part of your experience - how you think, feel, move, and act. And sometimes in ways that don't immediately seem connected with fear…

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August 5, 2025
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    • Video: The Myth of Mental Illness?
    • Video: How Confidence Works
    • Video: Addictive Personality?
    • Download: Stress-Buster audio
    • Radio Interview: Coping With Stress
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