Nailed It: The Hidden Truth Behind The Pain That Prevents Change (And What To Do About It)

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Nailed It: The Hidden Truth Behind The Pain That Prevents Change (And What To Do About It)

Why do we struggle to make the changes we know we need to?

I stayed in a lacklustre job for a number of years. Despite my lack of interest in the role. Despite mounting tension with my boss. I wasn't happy. I knew that. But I didn't leave.

And why?

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High Achieving: Why Chasing Achievement Can Fail To Bring You The Feel-Good Hit You Expect

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High Achieving: Why Chasing Achievement Can Fail To Bring You The Feel-Good Hit You Expect

I went to London recently to see some friends I haven't for a while. And this might seem trivial. But it was nearly a whole day spent on connection. And well away from anything I could consider 'productive'.

Now, it's not like I wouldn't have done that in the past. I would. And did. But I'd have found myself increasingly uncomfortable as the time-to-leave drew closer and closer.

But why?

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Change Of View: How Past Positives Can Keep You Running Back Instead Of Moving Forwards

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Change Of View: How Past Positives Can Keep You Running Back Instead Of Moving Forwards

We can become upset when a new estate goes up across the road. Destroying the view of the fields and cattle we had before.

We complain to family and friends. Co-workers. Post to online forums. We worry about the traffic. It's grown worse the last few years. It can only get even worse now…

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Failure To Invest: Why Our Most Painful Failures Can Be The Most Valuable

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Failure To Invest: Why Our Most Painful Failures Can Be The Most Valuable

Nobody likes to fail. Not really. But sometimes we need to.

I cracked my phone screen recently. A month old. First time ever. I'd always relied on a particular case. But with a change in design, I didn't spend any real time looking for something on par. "It'll be fine" I thought. And it wasn't.

But would my complacency have been shattered without such a blunder?

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Part Of The Pack: How Simple Life Choices Can Leave You Out With The Wolves

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Part Of The Pack: How Simple Life Choices Can Leave You Out With The Wolves

I was on a bike ride this weekend. A pub crawl, technically, (those were the checkpoints) except on wheels.

I've been doing it for 10 years. And what started as an off-cuff idea between friends, 15 years later, is now an organised community of cyclists. Riders come and go. People get busy. Move away. Gain commitments. But twice a year, the ride still goes ahead…

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Soap Box Stress: How Your Rules Create The Very Problems You're Trying To Avoid

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Soap Box Stress: How Your Rules Create The Very Problems You're Trying To Avoid

Often find yourself on edge? Like a ready-to-boil-over pan, or Jenga pile nervously awaiting the next nudge?

I used to get stressed a lot. So much hacked me off. Slow drivers. Program crashes. Blown light-bulbs. Instruction manuals that didn't make sense just by staring at them blankly for four seconds…

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